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What to do when you have a Fight

November 23, 2012

Fights are a part and parcel of every relationship. When there are two people together, and you can take any two people, there is bound to be disagreements between them. This is because no two person are same and have same views about life. All have certain different opinions and views and difference of opinions are likely to occur. In a relationship it is much heightened. This is because along with the difference in opinion, there is the bond of the relationship as well. Hence, you consider the other person as somebody who must listen to you and agree to you. The feeling of possessiveness comes in, and also the partner has a much bigger capacity to hurt you. Hence, a disagreement that might have occurred with a stranger might turn into a fight with your partner. Also, there are a lot of expectations that we have on our partners, that they will behave in a certain way with us, that they will keep our trust, etc. When such things tend to not happen, then we get hurt and we start fighting with our partner.

When we have a fight with our partner, certain issues crop up. We stop talking to our partner for days, and things get bad before finally being normal. In such situations, there are a number of things that you can do to be at an advantage and not get hurt by your partner.

  1. When it’s your fault, apologize – When you are at fault, then try to apologize as quickly as possible. Don’t leave things for later, just go immediately and apologize. At that moment, she won’t probably listen. After that, don’t nag her. Wait for her to cool down and ask her to talk to you for a bit then. When that happens, tell her about everything and apologize. Also a few lies here and there won’t hurt. When you talk to her and explain things, then apologize again. Tell her you’re sorry, and not just for the heck of it. Tell her sincerely, from the bottom of your heart. Let her know that she means a lot to you, and she’ll probably melt. After that, leave it at her option to decide whether she wants to talk to you or not after that.
  2. Don’t nag – Don’t keep nagging her over that same thing again and again. Give her the impression that it wasn’t your fault entirely. And when a person is not at fault, he does not nag. He tells the truth, and then leaves it upon the other whether to accept it or not.
  3. When it’s their fault – When it is their fault, they will be really warm and nice to you. Take advantage of that and tell them directly what you want and what you don’t. If there is something you don’t like, then tell it to them in firm terms. Make it clear that there are certain things that hurt you, and ask them not to do it again. But make sure you’re not too rude, because that’ll cause irreparable damage.

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