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Tips to Know When the Relationship is Falling Apart

October 12, 2012

A relationship has corresponding joys and sorrows. All that excitement, fun and good feelings you had when the relationship started and during all the great times you had, makes the relationship so strong that when the relationship is a bad phase, or you are falling apart, you experience pain and sadness. The sad truth about relationships is that a number of them break, whether due to trust issues or due to people falling out of love with each other. It’s a particularly painful process when you fall out of love with your partner, but perhaps one you cannot do anything about. Maybe your relationship was never strong enough, maybe it was just an infatuation, maybe a trust issue or some other issue has crippled your relationship, maybe distances have managed to separate you, or maybe something else has happened, and that has managed to weaken your relationship beyond repair. Whatever it is, it is necessary to identify it and look for solutions if any. Hiding from the fact will make things worse, because if you are falling out of love, then a breakup is inevitable. It’s perhaps better to prepare for it and do it the right way, rather than letting it hurt you even more.

Here are a few signs that tell you when you’re falling out of love.

  1. You’re spending less time with each other – Be it on the phone, or in person, you’re spending increasingly less time with each other. You’re not interested in her company anymore, and it bores you. The excitement and the fun are gone, what remains is a sort of a moral obligation to talk to her. What you both talk about is no more interesting for you, and you try to finish the commitment as soon as possible and get back to your life. You might be having bigger priorities, and when the same priorities that seemed insignificant when you were very much in love have now assumed a special importance, then you should know that something’s wrong.
  2. You both feel as if you’re drifting away from each other, but cannot explain it – In a way, the level of interest has diminished. You people don’t share many things anymore, and there is a very evident lack of interest in your relationship. You both don’t meet very often, and you’re not excited about talking to each other. You don’t await her phone call with the same eagerness as you used to. But this should not be confused with assimilation. When you’re past the initial stages of a relationship, then you both become a part of each other’s lives, and the initial excitement dies. The reason is simple, you both have to get on with your lives, but that does not mean the love has faded away. That means that you’re finally getting your feet back on the ground. That is entirely different from the current situation, where you no longer feel to be a part of each other’s lives. Small things regarding them irritate you, and you’re less tolerant regarding everything they do. There are numerous issues such as this, and you would then perhaps know that you’re no longer that interested in her.

If that is the case, then it is time to re-evaluate. Maybe it is something that can be solved, and you can get back. Maybe, it is not. Whatever it is, it is important to ponder over it and take a decision that’ll affect you positively.



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