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How to Find a Solution to Fights

August 31, 2012

Although we enter relationships for the joys and pleasure that it gives us, the relationship would occasionally (at least) find itself in troubled waters. The reason for this is the issue of compatibility. No two persons are like exact pieces of a jigsaw puzzle, and hence there are bound to be disagreements over matters and fights. There are bound to be certain things that the partners don’t like about each other, and this can be further worsened by possessiveness. Some fights are minor, and may be simple disagreements or the like. They can be solved by time and by a nice discussion. Other fights are more severe, when bigger issues crop up. There are certain codes and limits in a relationship that you are never supposed to cross. So the next time your girl tells you not to talk to that particular girl because they have personal problems, then you shouldn’t. There are some things that both partners are very touchy about, and one should never hurt their sentiments over such issues. Other problems are of cheating, where your heart may be broken by a cheating and unfaithful partner, and they involve immense sadness and are causes of a lot of justified breakups.

But a sign of a true and sincere relationship is when you get over all the fights and issues and get back together, and be the happy couple that you used to be. Sometimes, there are a series of fights that occur, and it is important to get over them. They are even more difficult to get through, but with patience, love and perseverance, everything will pass and the happy days will be back again.

There are a few things that are to be kept in mind in order to solve a fight and get back to normalcy. Some people are too precious to let go of, and every effort must be made to keep them.

Step 1: The first step is always to find out the underlying reason behind the fight. It is important to know what exactly is the root cause of the fight so as to help a person solve it in future. When we know of the reason behind a fight and ponder over it, we get wonderful insights into our relationship and the follies on part of both the people.

Step 2: The second step is to always start a conversation. A fight can never be solved without a conversation. There may be a phase when the partners are not talking, and that causes a lot of awkwardness. Also, there might be initial coldness in a conversation. But it is extremely important to converse, if you want to get over a fight.

Step 3: The third step is to spell out the issues that the partners are facing. There must be faults on behalf of both the partners. A detailed discussion would help gain insight into the relationship and what both people are doing wrong. It would improve understanding and prevent any future occurrences of the same fight. Apologize if necessary and you can even consider apologizing even if you are not sorry. It means that you care enough about the person to apologize.

Step 4: Go for a nice outing: As a celebration that you’ve gotten over the fight, you should go out and spend some quality time with each other. This will ease things and bring you back to the stage when you are comfortable with each other, and are happy.

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