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How to deal with the pain of losing her?

July 2, 2012

Who is to say that man can’t get heart-broken? Who is to say that man can’t feel real pain? Especially in our days we man tend to get more passionate about relationships and give our hearts to girls, who most of the times don’t deserve such a strong romantic gesture. Statistics show that more than 90% of relationships in our days end badly, with someone getting hurt badly. And it is completely natural to feel hurt, but how to deal with the pain of losing her?

The first thing you should start taking under consideration is she really worth going through all of this pain for her. Every person, when loving someone, sees them in a different light – more beautiful than they really are, more perfect, but the truth is no one is perfect, and no one can be. It is us that choose to see someone’s imperfections and choose to not notice them. Having that in mind, remember old moments you’ve had with her, and notice the things you didn’t – notice those imperfections and concentrate around them.

One of the most common mistakes is to try to “drown” the pain in alcohol, but this method always gives false results. Alcohol will only blur your opinion and make you do things you will soon regret, like trying to contact her. Instead of getting drunk, try to concentrate all of the strong feelings you are experiencing into something worth doing.

For example go to the gym and train, or go out for a jog. That way you can get your body to waste all of the energy that the strong feelings fill you up with and in the same time you will be able to concentrate your mind and realize that there are a lot of other ladies out there that would love to be with you. Moreover you will do your body and yourself a favor by enhancing it, without really noticing.

Getting a dog or a hobby is also a thing to consider – it will take your mind off things. Moreover if you buy a dog, you will have someone who can fill the void and who you can give all your extra love to. By having a pet you ensure yourself of having someone to love.

Another thing you should consider is – do you really miss her, or do you miss being with her? In most cases tend to forget there’s a difference and mix things up, but that is not the case. If you miss being with her, you could very easily find someone else to fill up the void and the free time you probably have left.

Try to spend more time with your friends, even if you don’t believe they will help you, you could find yourself pleasantly surprised. And at the end remember that no one can take away from you what you are and who you are. Pain is just a feeling every person feels at some point of their lives. Pain is what makes us human.

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