Friends before Dating?
Most of the time your best friend will become your relationship partner, if they are a member of the opposite sex. In some instances, this makes for an ideal relationship because you two get along great, you’re very close to one another and you feel like you can tell each other anything. If do know the person intimately before the dating process beings then you are able to be yourself completely around that person. But there is also a big risk to be taken into careful consideration: if something goes wrong I don’t want to run the risk ruining our friendship.
In this day and age it is less common to become friends with someone of the opposite sex before dating. You see girls, and even women, jumping right into the dating pool and picking the first guy they think looks like a suitable partner. In some ways, I think this is beneficial. Dating is all about getting to know someone, seeing if you get along well together and if you really like and enjoy them so a more serious relationship can bloom. If you do not know someone intimately then that adds to the mystery of dating. That is what’s dating is all about, figuring someone out.
What if you do not have a best friend of the opposite sex? Of course you’re not doomed to spend the rest of eternity alone; dating was made for people like you. In my opinion, getting all dressed up and putting my best face on is fun before going out on a date with someone. I like the other person to see the best side of me, and I like to make a really good first impression. Think of it as a job interview but not as formal. You are interviewing this person, as are they you, to see if they are the right fit for your life. If it turns out that they are not then simply move on.
Now I’m not saying that being friends before a dating relationship is established is a bad thing, all I am saying is that I do not believe that has to be the number one reason to start dating somebody. Sure, at least if you know the person a little bit before you start dating it can help. Take, for example, what I stated above. If you are friends with someone before you start dating then you already know that you will be comfortable being who you are around that person no matter what. You know what that person likes and does not like, so you are able to agree on a first date that would be enjoyable for you both.
It is not important that you are friends with who you are dating before you start dating them. Like I stated before, dating is all about getting to figure someone out; getting to know them on a personal level. So have fun doing that, and hopefully it will work out for you!