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Here’s a great love homework assignment for both guys and gals. I call it the “Love Post-it Activity” This is something my wife actually first did for me the first day I taught summer school and it really made me feel supported. Whenever I start a new job or have an interview for a promotion etc., I get self-conscious like everyone. In this case my wife’s love homework really pumped me up and made my first day truly rock. I woke up to my alarm in the usual way and found the bathroom mirror covered with post-its bearing little thoughts she had used loving writing skills to produce. They said things like:
- I know you’ll do great.
- You’re the best teacher in the district.
- They are LUCKY to have you
- I wish you’d tutor me
You get the idea. These meant so much to me because I actually was a little apprehensive about the people at the new school I’d be working with. They had a reputation of being a little snobby and so I put the post-its in my wallet for moral support later. I looked back into our bed and saw she was passed out asleep so I didn’t thank her. I called her later and gave her a super duper thank you and took her out to a movie that night. As it turned out, the summer teaching went stellar and I made a lot of really important contacts that summer. Who’s to say it wasn’t because of those post it notes and my positive attitude as a result?
Do we realize the huge impact we have on our spouse’s self esteem? We should.
Well, that was 2002. Now it’s 7 years later and I had recently applied for a Summer Principal position. I wanted it badly, partly for the extra money and partly for the incredible experience of being in charge of a team of teachers. That’s an incredible thing to have on a teaching resume. To make a long story short, yesterday was my wife’s 32nd birthday and I recalled how amazing those post-its were. I’d already gotten her a day at the health spa as her gift but I thought it would be so neat if I did the post-it thing on the bathroom mirror wishing her a happy birthday. I covered the mirror with them. Just like 7 years ago, she was fast asleep. I got a call around 11am on my cell and she was so happy. Her exact words were: “I feel so loved.” That was wonderful to hear.
I think this is a great love homewaork assignment for you guys or gals. It does take some thought and creativity, but I think it will be worth your while.
As a “post note” (no pun intended) I just found out today that I was chosen to be the Summer School Principal at my school site this Summer and my supportive wife and I are both delighted. What do you think of the post-it activity? Might it work for you? Give it a try and let us know how it goes.
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Congrats on getting the Principal position Damien
Great post as always, just goes to show how a tiny little note can go a long way. 
Thanks Chelle. This simple activity of a post-it note for the one you love can really make a difference! Thanks for having me here to share that idea
It shuld be quite a summer! This is my first time in Principal shoes.
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I always love making surprises like this. It surely makes your target think of you for a second. I do this often with my lovey dovey, post-its on his wallet, bag, favorte book, just to say “I Love you”, “you’re doing great”, “you look damn cute tonight”, and more!
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Loved the post it idea. I think we should realize the impact we have on others self-esteem, in all our relationships. Sometimes we have a tendency to forget the influence we have over others, especially the ones we love, and who love us.
Best Wishes
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Something about notes … they just fill me up with “belong.”
Thanks for the comments you guys. Sounds like you get this concept.
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I’m always told i’m not romantic enough, its these kinds of ideas I need to introduce in to our relationship and the great thing I suppose is that they don’t take a long time to do either. Great post and congratulations on the position!
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@Tom: Thanks a lot. You have a great insight there. I have the distinct honor and luck that my wife’s birthday and Mother’s day are a couple days apart (I’ kidding about the lucky part). One year I forgot a gift and card for one or the other and I said in my defense: “They are so close together, I didn’t have the time to go out twice this week.” This of course was a bad approach to an apology on a couple levels BUT it elicited a response I have never forgotten. She replied:
While it can seem tough to be “romantic,” I have found my wife appreciate being thought of plain and simple. So no need to get elaborate. Maybe start with a post-it note and then get hooked on doing stuff all the time as I have become. Let us know how it goes.
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I love this article. Do you mind if I quote it in the future on my blog? I used to do this for my boyfriend when we first started dating, but I haven’t in a while. He used to love it soo much too. I will definately do it again some time soon though. Thanks for reminding me about it. Do you mind if I link to your blog on mine, http://www.sociasex.com ? Let me know your thougts. Anne
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I try and do something similar with my spouse but more on a weekly basis. I tuck a little note in his lunch box or put one on his steering wheel. Just a little note to let him know I appreciate all he does for the family and that his efforts are noticed.
We have done mini versions of this – but not often enough! I’m going to make a few up now, thank you, Damien!
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@Marcia: I am sure Leon will love the ones you leave him
It’s the little stuff like this that keeps me in the beautiful, air-conditioned dog house (at worst) sometimes. I haven’t seen that other one we won’t speak of in years 
Ah the power of a of a post-it.
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Love post-it ideas are inspiring. Sure that would work a great deal of motivation and encouragement. A friend , who shares the same hobby as mine, would express her thoughts and emotions through cross stitch. Although, this wouldn’t make for an instant love note. Since it takes time to finish.
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