One of the important things many couples neglect in a relationship is one of the most intimate places they spend the most time together: the bedroom. While you may only be sleeping in your bedroom much of the time, it’s the one space that is uniquely yours and can become a relaxing retreat for the two of you to unwind, relax, and enjoy each other’s company.
Improving the environment around you will always help you and your partner feel less stressed and more relaxed. When you are less stressed and more relaxed (and getting a good night’s sleep!) you will certainly get along better than if you are both tired, cranky, and stressed out. Taking the time to make your bedroom your safe haven for the two of you will definitely help with improving intimacy and closeness to one another.
There are a few challenges with making a bedroom more romantic. Couples newly living together may struggle with defining space or combining their individuality into a shared space for two. Other couples who have been living together for a long time may find that their room is now cluttered with books, computer equipment, clothes, and all of the other things that accrue over the years. In either case, we’ve come up with some very simple, easy things you can do to make a room more romantic (and without spending a fortune!) And, no, you don’t even have to be an interior designer!
Here’s How to Get a More Romantic Bedroom:
1. Get Involved Together: Because the bedroom is a shared space, it only makes sense that your room together involves the both of you in making a more comfortable and special place for the two of you. I realize of course that some people will be indifferent about what their bedrooms are like, and would be more than content to let the other person worry about making it the way they want it. At the very least though you should talk about what you both like and dislike and any major decisions should be made together so that both of you are happy.
2. Clean Out the Clutter: Most bedrooms of couples do not look like something you’d see in a Better Homes & Garden Magazine or on a home and garden TV show. “Normal” for most couples is having a bed, maybe a few dressers, a tv, piles of laundry, and plenty of stuff you don’t even remember you had stacked in the corner, hidden under the bed, or stuffed into a closet. If you want to make your bedroom a more relaxing place however, all this junk has simply got to go. You can donate it to charities or recycle it. If you absolutely can’t part with it, then it’s time to find all that stuff a new home in another part of your house or apartment. Not too many people I know are thrilled at the thought of cleaning, but it’s absolutely necessary if you want to feel better about the place the two of you share.
3. Remember the Word Compromise: Not too many couples agree 100% on everything, however even the most opposite of couples can usually find something that they both like for their bedroom. Being stubborn or creating an argument out of making your room more intimate will likely not help. Instead, remember to compromise. Sure, you might have to make a few sacrifices (ie: I have a TV in my room when I would rather not have one!), but because it is a space the two of you share, it only makes sense that it has a little bit of everything for both of you.
3. Change the Sheets: Getting new sheets, blankets, and pillows is a very easy way to make a room more comfortable for the two of you. If your sheets don’t make you say “Damn, these are some nice sheets!” then you will know that you need new ones. My personal favorite are the cotton t-shirt jersey type – but others may find they like silk, satin, or other fabrics better instead. The average person spends between 25- 40% of your day in bed – don’t you and your partner deserve to be comfortable?
4. Consider Lighting: Lighting can have a lot to do with the different mood and vibe the room has. There’s a big difference between walking into a room with wall sconces compared to a bright florescent light above. Having the ability to go from bright light for when you need to see (ie: cleaning everything out like we suggested in the first step!) and a softer glow for when you are relaxing or getting ready for bed can make a nice difference and again with little cost. You can go all out with recessed lighting and new lamps and fixtures, or just opt for getting a $10 dimmer switch that lets you control the brightness of the light.
5. Show Some Personality: Unless you are planning on selling your house, it’s important that your bedroom shows the peronalities of the two of you. This can be done by making some custom art together or picking a few things to help decorate the room. Black and white photography, collages, special quotes to the two of you, and anything else you and your partner like can help the bedroom reflect your personal styles.
Do you have any suggestions or ideas to help make a bedroom more romantic? Any thoughts on the importance of making a bedroom special for the two of you to share? Feel free to leave your ideas and thoughts in the comments below.