The Qualities of a Good Friend
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If you’ve been lucky enough to have a few good friends, then you probably could describe the qualities of a good friend just by saying different things about the friends you have.
It would seem with billions of people in the world, meeting people that have the qualities of a good friend shouldn’t be that hard. And yet, for many of us finding that friend in of itself is a challenge – and continuing that friendship over the years and trials of life for many just isn’t possible. There have been times in my life I had so many friends I couldn’t fit them all together in a giant room – and other times I could count all of my friends on one hand and still have fingers left over.
I did some thinking about what really makes a good friend and what characteristics they have. I thought back on the past friends I’ve had and presently have – how they treated me, how I treated them – why we are still friends today or why our friendship has changed or dissolved.
All of this thinking had led me to create this list of the qualities of a good friend.
A good friend is honest and trustworthy
A good friend lets you be yourself and doesn’t try to change you or change to be liked by you
A good friend shows they care
A good friend never would let you do something that would hurt you
A good friend calls you just to say hi or see how you are
A good friend is genuinely interested and involved in your life
A good friend can tell if you’re happy or not happy without you saying a word
A good friend sticks with you through the terrible-horrible parts of life
A good friend makes time for you even if they don’t have a lot of time
A good friend has enough dirt on you to blackmail you for life – but keeps his or her mouth shut
A good friend can forgive you when you make a mistake or screw up
A good friend never takes more from you than they can give back
A good friend is respectful towards you and every other person in your life, whether they like them or not
These are just some of my thoughts on what makes a good friend based from my own experiences. What qualities do you think make a good friend? Do you have many of these friends or just a close few?
About Chelle
Chelle is a freelance writer and married to the funniest guy in the world, mom of some cute crazy kids, and write mostly from my own experiences in love and relationships.
none of my friends have this quality
or even most of the qualities
it’s unfortunant
& sad.
Solid list and would say definitely qualities for good friends. Luckily I have some really good friends with most of those qualities and think that I have the same for them.
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Yup, it’s pretty tough to find a good friend. A true friend that is. One thing that I consider a good quality is not flaking out on plans! I mean, I would prefer not to have even made plans with someone rather than get dropped half way through the night, right? So frustrating.
A good friend always is there when you need them
It’s really hard to find a friend that have all this qualities, but not impossible !
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i think that it’s important that a good friend is willing to listen to you. sometimes, you just want to be able to have your say, or rant, and have someone listen. advice isn’t even needed, just a sympathetic ear.
it’s hard to find people willing to just let you talk sometimes.
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Ya know,I was touched.And I can’t help connecting these to me and my best friends.
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I agree. I just lost a great friend of mine and I miss him so much. He is all of the above.
Thanks for those thoughtful descriptions of what defines a good friend …
One thing that I would say defines a good friendship is the ability to resume it even after many years of no contact.
I recently caught up with a good friend from my school years after almost ten years (and before that there was another decade long break).
It was as if nothing had changed. The bonds were as strong as ever. Now that’s a good friendship!
Those on the list are the qualities of a good friend. I lost many friends for some reason and nowadays it’s hard to find a real friend who have those qualities.
I also have friends like that.I am very happy about that