Comments on: I Hate My Ex Girlfriend!

By: Pete

Pete — Sat, 14 Feb 2009 00:16:19 +0000

Women fall faster, men fall deeper… the same is true in breaking up, women can walk away quicker and it takes men longer to get over a love. To the author, if you have never looked back and never given a guy a 2nd thought I would define you as a shallow narcissist and plainly state you will be incapble of of true love until you have had your heart broken.

By: fausialaila

fausialaila — Mon, 02 Feb 2009 02:22:02 +0000

I just break up with my ex bf yesterday. i try to end our relationship in a peaceful way. At least, I do consider we can still be friend. but, he make it difficult. finally, he end up with hating me. Now he hate me! just few minutes before he said he love me but in a second he completely hate me. but still, in my own opinion everyone will have different way on handling break up depends on situation and cause of event. if guy dumped a girl, for sure they will handle it better than that girl and the same goes for the opposite. just seriously, for me there is no need of hate feelings occur. everything happen for reasons right? just think of it and try to accept it and i do agree with “the lesson”.

Fausialaila

By: Cato

Cato — Tue, 20 Jan 2009 23:43:33 +0000

We are both in our 50s and its not any easier to find someone or break up with him/her. One weekend we went out in our little town and ran into his ex-girlfriend, who I saw for the first time. He had not seen or talked to her in over a year and they had been broken up for over 2 years. It was weird and I mostly ignored her. Then we went back to that same restaurant/bar over the weekend and who shows up again? The ex with her boyfriend. I suggested we leave as I was very uncomfortable in a place that had her photo in it – it was like its her territory and I thought it would be better if we left.

I found out later that my boyfriend had emailed her after the first time we ran into her. And he had proceeded to ask her to some golf events, without my knowledge. He knows that I don’t share, not even golf, and he also feels the same way, we don’t cross any lines. So for him to do this was a total betrayal of me and my feelings.

I left him a nasty message and packed up my things and left. Don’t men in their 50′s know better than to contact the ex for social reasons? What a jerk. I don’t hate him that much because I doubt I ever let myself love him that much, but I still let him have it for betraying me. And he had just met my son for the first time last week. Now I really feel like a loser. UGH!

By: Masterfiend

Masterfiend — Mon, 12 Jan 2009 06:37:14 +0000

Usually, with girls who dump guys, they’ve been thinking about it for awhile, and have made up their minds well in advance from the actual “break up”.

Girls also cope differently. In order to fill the empty space in their heart, they usually jump right into a new relationship, often with the guy that you “suspected” she had a thing with. Like an emotional affair… The guy waiting in the wings.

Guys usually go through a period of shock, mourning, acceptance, and then a period of self-improvement to get back into the “game”. Usually they don’t want to get right back into another relationship as they always compare the new girl with the old… until they work things out.

This is when they figure out that the well has not run dry, you just need to give it some pumping.

Also, don’t ever wank thinking of your ex gf. Don’t even think about her. Stop it.

By: Leigh

Leigh — Sat, 03 Jan 2009 01:54:54 +0000

I agree with many of the comments above. I was dumped by my girlfriend of 14 years for a much older guy. At first I doubted myself and thought I was a loser. But over the last two years I focused on helping others and got heavily involved in a charity helping kids with cancer. It takes your mind off your own problems but only temporarily because sooner or later you have to deal with your emotional issues. But time healed some of the wounds and I became a much better person for the experience. I have refined every part of my life and gathered new friends and got fit and healthy in every way. My challenge now is to not fall into the trap of thinking about my ex. I see her around town and she tries to make eye contact but I ignore her for my own emotional safety. I want to stay strong for myself and the poeple who rely on me. And if I had my time over I would do it all over again. That’s the funny thing…she’s not worth it and I now realise this. There are much better girls out there and I have just met one and she is everything my ex was and more. I hope this helps anyone who reads this.