Comments on: Living Together Before Marriage http://www.itmightbelove.com/2008/09/08/living-together-before-marriage/ dating & relationship inspiration Wed, 05 Jan 2011 09:05:48 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: John@Colchester wedding photographer http://www.itmightbelove.com/2008/09/08/living-together-before-marriage/#comment-2866 John@Colchester wedding photographer Tue, 17 Mar 2009 16:47:16 +0000 http://www.itmightbelove.com/?p=392#comment-2866 Very interesting post and comments. My opinion is that testing the waters before getting married is an extremely good idea, as a lot of compromises will need to be made by both. Whether this is always a good idea all depends on the culture, family etc. In the UK, living together has now become more popular than getting married. Very interesting post and comments. My opinion is that testing the waters before getting married is an extremely good idea, as a lot of compromises will need to be made by both. Whether this is always a good idea all depends on the culture, family etc. In the UK, living together has now become more popular than getting married.

]]> By: kevin@no contest divorce http://www.itmightbelove.com/2008/09/08/living-together-before-marriage/#comment-2609 kevin@no contest divorce Fri, 06 Mar 2009 21:25:04 +0000 http://www.itmightbelove.com/?p=392#comment-2609 Living together before marriage sure makes a no contest divorce a lot easier if there is a beak up. There are no legal proceeding at all. You both just have to agree on who gets the TV, couch, apartment etc. Once you're married the legal stuff gets really complicated. Of course, that just address the practical aspect, not the moral. <abbr><em>kevins last blog post..<a href="http://nocontestdivorce.net/do-it-yourself-divorce-or-divorce-lawyer.php" rel="nofollow">Do-It-Yourself Divorce or Divorce Lawyer?</a></abbr></em> Living together before marriage sure makes a no contest divorce a lot easier if there is a beak up. There are no legal proceeding at all. You both just have to agree on who gets the TV, couch, apartment etc. Once you’re married the legal stuff gets really complicated.

Of course, that just address the practical aspect, not the moral.

kevins last blog post..Do-It-Yourself Divorce or Divorce Lawyer?

]]> By: johan@zara clothing http://www.itmightbelove.com/2008/09/08/living-together-before-marriage/#comment-2103 johan@zara clothing Fri, 26 Dec 2008 04:56:38 +0000 http://www.itmightbelove.com/?p=392#comment-2103 I am in that group of not living together before marriage. I almost want to though, what if I cannot live with her! P.S. I LOVE your website design! I am in that group of not living together before marriage. I almost want to though, what if I cannot live with her!

P.S. I LOVE your website design!

]]> By: Bella http://www.itmightbelove.com/2008/09/08/living-together-before-marriage/#comment-2019 Bella Wed, 10 Dec 2008 15:38:13 +0000 http://www.itmightbelove.com/?p=392#comment-2019 I also don't agree with living together before marriage. My husband and I did not. We did not want any potential problems such as forming bad habits, not valuing marriage, the what if's, the fear that it might not work out, etc. Also, it made our wedding day and marriage much more special. Not only that, we didn't have "old habits" to break. As they say, "old habits die hard". There's much more commitment, respect, and confidence when married. When I go to weddings where the couple has lived together for years, I always wonder why they have the large registry, the big blown-out wedding, and all the traditions of a "traditional wedding". Don't get me wrong, I'm happy for them and glad they chose to make the right decision. But why have a traditional wedding when they did not have a traditional courtship? The wedding doesn't seem as meaningful as the wedding of a couple who did not live together before marriage. I also don't understand the pros about living together, such as you'll find out annoying habits or you can see if you can live together in harmony? Sorry, but isn't that a part of marriage... going through trials together and working through them. When I was dating my husband, we both had our own places. When I went over to his place, I could tell if he was neat or not. And throughout our courtship, I knew what his annoying habits were. We all have them. Overall, you continually learn about your spouse everyday. So, when couples live together to "test their relationship", I don't see the point because things will always pop up in a marriage. We live in a culture where we want things done fast and easy. One man I know gave me a little insight about his 35 year marriage. He said, "My wife has been married to 5 different men and they're all me." Good line! I also don’t agree with living together before marriage. My husband and I did not. We did not want any potential problems such as forming bad habits, not valuing marriage, the what if’s, the fear that it might not work out, etc. Also, it made our wedding day and marriage much more special. Not only that, we didn’t have “old habits” to break. As they say, “old habits die hard”. There’s much more commitment, respect, and confidence when married.

When I go to weddings where the couple has lived together for years, I always wonder why they have the large registry, the big blown-out wedding, and all the traditions of a “traditional wedding”. Don’t get me wrong, I’m happy for them and glad they chose to make the right decision. But why have a traditional wedding when they did not have a traditional courtship? The wedding doesn’t seem as meaningful as the wedding of a couple who did not live together before marriage.

I also don’t understand the pros about living together, such as you’ll find out annoying habits or you can see if you can live together in harmony? Sorry, but isn’t that a part of marriage… going through trials together and working through them. When I was dating my husband, we both had our own places. When I went over to his place, I could tell if he was neat or not. And throughout our courtship, I knew what his annoying habits were. We all have them.

Overall, you continually learn about your spouse everyday. So, when couples live together to “test their relationship”, I don’t see the point because things will always pop up in a marriage. We live in a culture where we want things done fast and easy. One man I know gave me a little insight about his 35 year marriage. He said, “My wife has been married to 5 different men and they’re all me.” Good line!

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