Posted by Damien Riley in With Back to School Starting, blogger Damien Riley is back with his series called “Love Homework.” Previous posts in the series include: Mirroring for Couples and Love Homework.
Hi there IMBL subscribers and readers! It’s great to be back. I’ve been meaning to continue this series on love homework because I feel it is so valuable to have cognitive things you can do when working on a relationship. Today I found some homework that was really valuable and it wasn’t with a couples counselor or on a date: I washed my wife’s car! It was something that needed to be done especially on the inside. I saw Taco Bell wrappers, for example, that are now no longer in print ;) My son and I drove it to an outdoor do it yourself bay and we had a blast using the machines and getting the car like a new one on the lot.
There is something bonding and endearing when you go through a loved ones trash. That sounds very odd I know but trust me, it is true. When you humble yourself enough to start sifting through their car, you sort of fall in love all over again. I can imagine once again that sounds really strange but today it was true. I know in the the past my wife has dome my ironing as a nice surpise and when she’s finished she has commented how she felt close to me ironing my work-shirts. This stuff sounds strange but it really works. 
It may be ironing or washing a car or something totally different. Whatever it is, I recommend you pick something they themselves must do for themeselves but have a hard time getting to. Watch what it does for them … and surprisingly you! And hey, if they say kissing makes you live longer, try some chores for your lover and you’ll live to 120!
Is there any love homework could you try in the next few days? Thanks for being a subscriber or reader at IMBL!
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[...] it be a great thing if simple cleaning job like buffing out your wife’s car (the topic of my current guest post at It Might be Love) could keep you off the therapist’s couch. Folks, in my 39 years almost without fail, [...]
i can imagine that it’d be a little comforting to see those little scraps which remind you of a particular date perhaps with your loved one. quick trip back in time, all while doing something nice for him or her.
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I have to agree with this one, sometimes just folding my hubby’s socks can make me smile.
That so romantic. I would really happy if my husban would do it for me. But maybe now I must start by washing his car first.
If you can do it expecting nothing in return you have a better chance … not as easy as typing it I admit.
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I can kind of imagine where you are getting at, with the concept of cleaning for the other person and feeling more connected. As for homework, I’m sure that kind is good, but the type you get from school is not wanted in any regard.
What’s up rifles. Glad you see the wisdom in helping your wife out with chores as I do.
As far as homework, most lovers like to do homework to improve their relationship. The other kind has its pros and cons. I’m a teacher and I don’t give a whole lot. You can read more about my teaching philosophy at my teaching blog: Dynamite Lesson Plan. Best in your love relationship.
Stumbled on this site from Damien’s site, Man, I have been doing tons of housework today now that my wife works. Literally 2.5 hours of cleaning, scrubbing sinks, toilets, organizing clothing drawers, vacuuming carpets, garage, mowing grass.
So even though we both work, I am doing double duty around the house to make up the difference so when she comes home, she doesn’t feel like there is house cleaning that needs to be done.
[...] post by Damien Riley in his “Love Homework” Series. Other posts in this series include: Chores and Kisses, Mirroring, Love [...]
ah. i hope that someday i too will be folding the socks of the woman i love.
or maybe stockings?? :O
My husband is hard-working man,and he’s always willing to lower my burden.So I would love to help him as much as I can.