Last week’s silly love song I shared with you was a small teaser for a series of posts I am presenting this week called the Is My Man Cheating? Series.
This series will look at a few different aspects of cheating and infidelity:
- Part 1: Raising the Question of “Is My Man Cheating?”
Part 2: Signs He is Cheating
Part 3: How to Catch a Cheater
Part 4: What to Do After He is Caught
Before I continue on with Part 1 of the Is My Man Cheating Series, I should note that by no means does this title mean to exclude any males or females out there - I am just writing this series based on my own personal experience. If you’ve been cheated on by a female and want to share your experience as a guest post, feel free to send me a quick note and let me know.
Part 1: Raising the Question: Is My Man Cheating?
If you’re asking yourself “Is My Man Cheating?” chances are it is quite possibly already too late.
Having experience of being cheated on, I can tell you I naively continued a relationship trusting a few losers for months before it even dawned on me to be a little suspicious of their activities.
Often by the time we raise the question “Is My Man Cheating”, we have usually ignored some of the obvious signs so long that we usually already know the answer to this question. While to outsiders the signs of a cheating partner are obvious, when you are on the inside of a relationship the signs may all be there, but you do not always see them.
The reason for this is because love can make us blind. We try to overlook the shortcomings of our partners. We were taught that trust and honesty are so important in a relationship that we want to give it out wholeheartedly. Unfortunately, giving someone trust does not always mean they will respect that trust and deserve it.
Let’s take a certain ex of mine for example. The two of us were living together and shared a cell phone. He had it most of the time. I didn’t mind, since I usually had access to a land line. I never thought about who he called or received text messages from, since I figured it was usually just some of his friends. There were times I would ask if I could have it for the day for whatever reason, and he always convinced me it would be better if he kept it. A few times I noticed text messages from girls he worked with and numbers I didn’t recognize with messages like “Miss U” and “What are you doing Friday?” – Despite all of that, I still never thought anything of it.
Of course anyone reading this would think “How could you be so stupid?” And sure enough, the answer to the question is my man cheating on me was yes.
The problem was I wanted to respect his privacy. I wanted to trust him. I wanted to believe it when he said he was out with the guys. I did NOT want to be one of those psychotic paranoid girlfriends. In the end, I found out I couldn’t trust him, and I was mad at myself for NOT being the psychotic paranoid girlfriend. By the time all of the signs really start sinking in to you, he may have been cheating on you for months, years, or even longer without you realizing it.
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