Recently I came across an article on Forbes on ways to spice up your sex life. After reading it, I came to the conclusion Forbes should just stick to talking about money, as they listed all kinds of ridiculous thing like medications, male enhancement, and other unnatural methods. Inspired by their article on ways to spice up your sex life, I decided that I’d write my own list with some more “natural” ideas.

For starters, wanting to spice up your sex life is not a “bad”, “naughty” or “dirty thing”. I’m assuming that those who would be looking for this kind of information probably have been in long committed relationships where sex is a natural way of expressing love to one another. What happens though, after years and years of being together is things become “business as usual” or too routine. In these situations, it’s perfectly normal and HEALTHY to look for new ways to make sex interesting or exciting again. So here you go:

12 Ways to Spice Up Your Sex Life:

1. Send an invitation: Who says invitations have to be for things like birthday parties and weddings? Why not spice up your sex life by inviting your partner with a formal invitation? You can be as serious or silly as you want. On the front write “You’re Invited…” - Inside write the details of when and where and even include your RSVP phone number. Want to keep it spontaneous? Just write inside “To Make Out With Me - Anytime, Any Place”.

2. Play Strip Poker: Find a deck of cards and just start dealing them out to your partner some night while you’re laying in bed or otherwise not doing anything else besides watching TV. When they ask you what you’re doing, just seriously say “It’s Poker Time”. Don’t know how to play poker? It’s really easy. Full directions are naturally available on Wikihow, the site I refer to for almost anything I need instructions for. It’s okay if you need to use the cheat sheet to decide who’s winning. The point is to get naked and spice up your sex life, so don’t worry about the rules too much, ok?

3. Save Water: Shower Together: This is an idea from my favorite green aliens. While your partner is in the shower, assuming they aren’t in need of privacy or get mad you would be joining them, why not hop in too? Once you’re in the shower, you’re already naked together, so the rest is up to you.

4. Spell It Out: You can use just about anything to spell out words implying what you’d like to do with your partner. Toothpicks, Cheerios, cleverly arranged food on their dinner plate - whatever it is, surely it will get their attention and help you spice up your sex life.

5. Make a To-Do List: Need your partner to get milk at the store or chores or something else where a to-do list is in order? Why not add “Have Sex With Me” to the list? You could even just make up a bogus one and see if they’re paying attention.

6. Dress Up: I’m not implying go crazy with costumes or anything strange like that (though if that’s your personal choice, hey I’m not one to judge!) but sometimes simply either having a pair of pajama pants that make you look good or even putting on a little lip gloss or shaving before bed can make you feel more attractive and thus get both you and your partner feeling more in the mood.

7. Give a Really Good Back Massage: Did you ever watch the Adam Sandler movie Click where the guy wants to have sex but the wife says “oh, okay, but only if you massage me first?” Skip the asking part and just go straight for a nice massage to get someone in the mood. The natural feeling of your hands on them might just get them in the mood for a little more.

8. Change Location: Remember in high school and you used to make out with people in your car? What’s stopping you from trying that now, even if you are parked in your driveway? Go outdoors, pick a different room, try out the floor or anywhere else that might suit your fancy. There’s no rule that you always have to have sex in bed.

9. Share Your Fantasies: For some reason, the word fantasy is usually associated with something “naughty or dirty”. It doesn’t have to be. Just talking about something you’d like to try in bed might be enough than actually doing it. If you want to try it, go ahead - but only if both parties are fully willing and comfortable with it.

10. Do a little teasing: Teasing is another often forgotten and overlooked way to spice up your sex life. Whether you choose to do a strip tease, or just plan to torture someone all day with teasing all day, or even giving them some teasing foreplay, teasing can really add a little spice to your sex life.

11. Add a Little Competition: Playing full contact sports with each other can usually make you think of full contact other things you could be doing. If sports aren’t your thing, you can add a little competition to spice up your sex life simply by betting: “If this happens, I’ll do anything you want me to - but if that happens than you have to do anything I want you to”. Of course you shouldn’t take this so seriously it would create an argument or make your partner uncomfortable, but it can get those wheels spinning.

12. Remember all things can be learned:: If all else fails, remember that sex is not something you are naturally “good at” - sure our reproduction instincts might tell us to do this or do that, but if sex was only for reproducing we wouldn’t enjoy it nearly as much. So pick up some books, watch some videos, maybe even consider talking to a sex therapist (especially if you’ve gone on a “dry spell” for more than a few months). Learning more about sex and different things you can try is another great way to spice up your sex life.

So that’s my little list of 12 ways to spice up your sex life. What do you do to spice up your sex life and keep things new and interesting in your relationship? Feel free to leave your ideas and suggestions in the comments below.

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