Comments on: The Friends With Kids Divide

By: Chelle

Chelle — Fri, 14 Nov 2008 02:18:43 +0000

You’ve got a good point there Crystal – I am sure it isn’t unintentionally

Ironically I never wanted kids either, god had different plans I am glad for it though!

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By: Crystal @ Mineral Face Makeup

Crystal @ Mineral Face Makeup — Thu, 13 Nov 2008 23:20:42 +0000

I am still a newlywed and my husband and I do not want children. We both love em, and I actually have been in the childcare business for some time. But we have no plans for any, least not for a very looooong time. One reason for this is that we have TONS of friends right now who are kind of a newly developed “married couples” group. And we have great times. And YES we are very aware of this thing you speak of “The friends with kids divide” We know that its a true phenomena and we are very afraid of it because we are so close to these friends.
And really it’s not because those friend abandoners are bad people or even bad friends. A lot of times its out of silly ignorance or trying to be kind to their friends with kids.
When those old friends of yours are planning a get together or party/outing, and they think: “Why don’t we invite so and so to this thing?” …the next natural response is usually: “Oh wait, they have kids…we don’t want them to have to go through any trouble.”
Most of the time these culprits are just trying to save you out of getting a sitter, changing plans that many parents tend to already have with children like school events, or taking time away from your family time.
At least that is what my husband and I think of. And my heart goes out to all those parents with the “divide” problem.
A suggestion as parents is to let those friends KNOW that they would like to at least be invited and be given the chance to reject or accept. And don’t be hard on those bad friends, they probably have good motives at heart.
Friggin LONG post. Sowee.

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By: Handbag for life

Handbag for life — Sat, 04 Oct 2008 13:03:12 +0000

I have a friend who I got to know him through my mom. Acutally my mom knew his mom. I have been to his house twice, and I was told by mom that his father abandoned his mother and refused to pay the alimony.Sadily, he was just 11 years old at that time,and his mother had to earn their living by prostitution. I can see how embarrassd he felt about his family. Maybe it's a little bit far from the topic...but I want to say children are innocent in the family relationship.Those who have to be divided with their child should always take responsibility to them. Handbag for lifes last blog post..Roberto Cavalli winter floral Silk Bracelet Clutch

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Mon, 22 Sep 2008 05:26:16 +0000

For me, it wasn’t a sacrifice. It was an investment that paid back in droves! My kids are 10 and 12, and fortunately have really developed into cool, relate-able young adults. We’ve always done everything with the kids, even if it meant not having as many close outside friends. Now my 12 year old son is fun and confident in having deep conversations with my 40 to 50+ year old buddies, and my 10 year old daughter plays drums and sings in my garage band. Pretty soon they’ll be off to college, and we’ll have our chance to party down again!! I wouldn’t have had it any other way.

Rich

By: Nathaniel

Nathaniel — Fri, 11 Jul 2008 20:22:29 +0000

I had never really noticed the difference so strongly, but I see very clearly that the two categories are different. It would be nice if the friends with no kids were a little more lenient, but what they really need is to have kids of their own. Growing up with a family of 2+ kids can help, especially if you are older and can see how the little kids are dealt with.