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How to Plan a Stress Free Wedding

June 16, 2008

With a few of my friends getting married this fall, it is becoming more obvious they are becoming stressed out over their weddings. Planning a wedding can be a very stressful ordeal, but it doesn’t have to be. Here are some tips for helping you plan your stress free wedding:

1. Elope: Okay, so that’s probably not the brilliant wedding planning tip you were hoping for, but it is much easier and stress free. This is what my husband and I did. We were the only ones who attended our wedding. No wedding invitations to mail, no caterer to choose…I think all said in done it cost us $40 to get married by eloping. And it was done with no stress. Our biggest concern was making sure we showed up on time. I did learn if you elope, you better decide how and when to tell people you got married. Because if you don’t, they’re going to get really, really mad at you for not telling them “first”. (Like you can tell every person you know first!)

Still not convinced you want to elope? If you’re insistent on a “real” wedding, here are some “real” tips on making it stress free:

1. Buy a Book: If you’re going to spend thousands of dollars on a wedding, you might as well do a lot of research and make sure you are organized. Having a book is going to make planning a stress free wedding easier. Find a book with checklists, ideas, customs, traditions, etc. A lot of people think this is petty, but if you are going to spend a few thousand dollars on something wouldn’t you want to be prepared and research it as much as you could? You could search online for hours for ways to plan your wedding, or you could just get a book and read it in half the time. There’s an ebook I have heard good reviews about called Amazing Wedding Planning or you can take a look at some of these from Amazon below:

2. Ignore Everybody: After you’ve ordered your wedding planning book, you’re ready to start brainstorming for ideas for your stress free wedding. This is the time where everyone’s opinions and customs start coming in. This will really start to add stress to your “stress free” wedding pretty fast. So here’s what you do: Smile and tell everybody it’s the best idea you ever heard. Then go do whatever you wanted to do originally. It’s not worth it to get in an argument about someone on what you want to do about your wedding. Thank them enthusiastically for their advice and ignore it. Don’t waste time trying to reason with a relative why you want a DJ instead of their cousin Vinnie’s live band.

3. Make decisions and stick to them: Don’t decide three months later that you want something else. This will quadruple the stress to your wedding. Sure, sometimes you will need to be flexible…but do not under any circumstance just decide you want pink napkins instead of blue ones or that maybe it would be better to have cousin Vinnie play after all two weeks before the big day.

4. Delegate: If you can afford it, hire a wedding planner. If a wedding planner is not in the budget, find some volunteers who can handle certain aspects for you – without throwing in all of their misguided and uninformed opinions at you. If you’re starting to feel stress about your wedding, it means you are not assigning enough responsibilities to other people.

5. Accept that no wedding is perfect: Just as nothing is perfect, chances are you won’t have the perfect wedding no matter what you do. Remembering that things are not perfect and being more accepting of the things that go wrong will help you day be more stress free.

6. Remember the most important thing: Forget about everything else and remember the real reason you are getting married: you are committing to spending the rest of your life with someone you love. Don’t let all the stress of planning a wedding come between you and your future spouse.

Whatever your wedding plans may be, these stress free wedding tips will help you make the best of your day. If you have any stress free wedding tips you’d like to add to this list, feel free to share them in the comments below.

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